[Time-Management] 100 Days Improvement Plan!

 

Day 29

2nd Aug 2011

How often do you feel irritated inside? Sometimes, often or always? Some people tell me that they experience a feeling of irritation very often. Some of them say that they feel irritated most of the time and feel angry with someone or something always.

Irritation is an important emotion and we should use it constructively as positive energy. But, if we were going to feel irritated most of the time, it will destroy our personality. Such a state of mind will make us feel restless and disturbed. With this state of mind, we will do or say something which will destroy interpersonal relationship. This internal state of mind will come out in the form of our words and actions, which will in turn irritate others. We have to stop this vicious circle.

You should to know your irritation quotient! One way is to become conscious whenever you get irritated and keep a count. You can also seek the help of your friends to observe this trait in you. Reflect the consequences of this trait on your attitude and emotional wellness.

Try this self monitoring from today!

N C Sridharan

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1st Aug 2011

 

Day 28

 

The quality of listening is very important in the process of communication. How do you listen when someone talks to you? What is the quality of your listening? Do you feel restless and butt in when others speak to you?

 

If you do all these, stop!

 

Listening is different from hearing. The difference lies in the quality. There are two types of listening: active listening and passive listening. Active listening will make encourage the communicator to speak to you. Passive listening will discourage him. Active listening is also called `whole body listening'. In this the listener also participates in the communication process.

For active listening, the following parameters are important:

v     Your body language

v     Your eye contact with the communicator

v     Asking relevant questions and clarifications

v     Paraphrasing what the communicator says

v     Facial expression

 

You may not know how you listen. From today, be conscious and look for the above in you when you listen to someone. Ask your close friends to give this feedback on the quality of your listening.

 

Most importantly, do active listening when they give the feedback!

 

Try this today!

 

N C Sridharan

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29th July 2011

Day 27

 

Have you heard of `Thanks Giving Day'? Why not every day is a Thanks Giving Day? We cannot do what we want to do alone. We need the help of many. We need the cooperation and active involvement of many. In fact we also need the complete lack of cooperation and inaction of others! If everyone cooperates and provide an ideal environment, we will not mature in life! Isn't true?

 

We should recall people's help and thank them. While thanking both the person thanking as well as the person receiving feel happy. People yearn for recognition and reciprocation as much as they yearn for help and support. When we recognise and reciprocate, we build healthy relationship and emotional wellness.

 

Today, try this. Make a list all those who helped in someway or other – small or big. Everyday, send a thank you card to one person and don't go to bed unless you've done this! In this electronic era, it is very easy to do. You can sms, you can e mail, you can use your mobile…

 

Notice what happens to the quality relationship and emotional wellness!

 

N C Sridharan

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28th Jul 2011

Day 26

Do you irritate others? If so, do you know how? We may not know how we irritate others. It may be some mannerism or traits. For example, interrupting when someone talks; speaking with a loud voice; wounding someone's emotions or feelings with words; talking too much; talking too much about yourself; snoring while sleeping; making noise while eating or drinking; making unconnected or inappropriate comments; seeking undue favours. The list can be endless!

Many may not tell you, but you need to be aware.

Social skills are very important. There is a whole range of subject called `etiquette and manners' and we need to know the same. It changes from culture to culture. Especially when you move with a heterogeneous body of people drawn from various cultures, you need to know what is not acceptable in each culture.

Today why don't you do an exercise: talk to some of your very close friends and ask them to give you some feedback on how you irritate others? Encourage them to be frank. Work out an action plan on how you want to get rid of the same!

N C Sridharan

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27th Jul 2011

Day 25

I any organisation once every year a complete inventory will be taken. The purpose is to take stock of the assets and the liability so that the balance sheet can be drawn. The health of an organisation can be seen not merely looking at the profit and loss account, but also at the balance sheet. The investors will be keen to know the liability side of the balance sheet. As individuals, we should also know our liabilities. One area we have to be sensitive is our bad habits.

Today, make an inventory of your bad habits! Sit calmly and list at least ten bad habits which you want to get rid of. As against each bad habit, honestly write down how the same has affected your life. Just visualise how your life would be now and in future without these bad habits.

The law of nature is very clear: what is noticed alone will grow. The same applies to remove something bad. Unless you notice a bad habit you cannot remove the same. It's like garbage removal. Unless you notice, you will not remove!

Today is inventory taking day!

N C Sridharan

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26th July 2011

Day 24

Are you comfortable take criticism and feedback constructively? This is an important quality all of need to develop. Think of the consequence complete absence of feedback and criticism about you. Many of us do not encourage criticisms from others. The more you dislike feedbacks and criticisms, the less others will be free to offer the same. Many of us will be thinking that what we do is right. Sometimes it may not be true.

Try this exercise to know the other side of yourself. Choose five people whom you trust most. Ask them to write down three things which they don't like in you! Do this exercise sincerely and honestly.

From out of the various things pointed out, choose five most important issues and list the `areas for self improvement'. Focus on one issue per week and try to eliminate the same from you.

This may look odd, but do it: stand in front of a mirror and openly criticise yourself! Suggest changes to the person in front of you and notice what happens to your own personality over a period of time!

Try this out?

N C Sridharan

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25th July 2011

Day 23

Developing an eye for details is an important quality. Great people have this. This is a mindset and attitude which clarity on what they want and what exactly they need to do.

Going into the details is a left brain function. Getting an overall perspective is a right side function. We need both to succeed in life. There are ways to enhance our ability to improve our eye for details.  

Here is an exercise you can do to develop an eye for details.

Take any object and look at it for a few moments and set it aside. Recall to your mind what all you noticed in the object. Now, take the same object again and this time look at the same object and go into details. Improve the quality of your focus; imagine that there is nothing else existing in the world other than the object. Have a close look at the object and write down more things about the object. You will be surprised to notice what all you missed! Repeat this exercise as many times as possible.

Notice what happens to your life!

N C Sridharan

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