28th June 2010
"Fix your eyes forward on what you can do, not back on what you cannot change."
Tom Clancy
If you read Stephen Covey's book The Seven Habits of Highly Effective People, you will come to know about the concept of pro-activity. This means doing something in the direction of the result that you want to produce and not finding out reasons or excuses. There are many things we cannot change, no matter how hard we try. This is what Stephen Covey calls as the area of concern.
Successful people concentrate on what they can do, no matter how small it is. There are many things which are in our area of influence, as Stephen Covey calls. We should know that can and should be changed and what cannot be changed.
The more and more we focus what cannot be changed, we will become frustrated and helpless and we will become irritated and tired. We will lose our self confidence and self worth. It will soon become our habit to blame and criticize others. This is an escape route we find to avoid doing what we can do. We need to be very clear on what we can and should do and not on what we cannot do.
Over this weekend do a small exercise: Take a project which you feel you have goofed up. List at least three things you can do to reach the outcome you have in mind. Break it up into small activities and slot one activity per day and notice what happens to your pending list over a period of time!
N C Sridharan
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