[Time-Management] Wishing You a Happy and Exciting New Year!

 

1st January 2012

Happy and Exciting New Year!

Dear readers,

I wish you all a very Happy and Exciting 2012. You will start receiving my newsletter from tomorrow. I wish to give the following quote which is very appropriate for the New Year:

`Another fresh New Year is here…

Another year to live!

To banish worry, doubt, and fear,

To love and laugh and give!

This bright New Year is given me

To live each day with zest…

To daily grow and try to be

My highest and my best!

I have the opportunity

Once more to right some wrongs

To pray for peace, to plant a tree,

And sing more joyful songs!'

William Arthur Ward

N C Sridharan

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[Time-Management] Sorry for the break...

 

19th December, 2011

Interrupted….

I encounter a technical problem in sending my newsletters through the yahoo groups and hence there will be a gap. I will resume my newsletters after I sort out the same.

I assure you that this series of newsletter will give you very interesting perspectives about the mind.

In the mean time if you have any feedback, please keep sending the same.

Bye for now….

N C Sridharan

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[Time-Management] A correction! Positive intention of my mind...

 

15th December 2011

Correction

In paragraph 2 line three read `you are in danger' instead of `you are in ganger'

Sorry, my mind did not notice this before sending the piece? Why? My mind has the positive intention of dispatching piece as soon  as possible!

NCS

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[Time-Management] Mind, O, My Dear Mind!

 

14th December 2011

Later on in this series of newsletters, we are going to understand how the use of language in a particular way will influence our thinking process and consequently affect the quality of our actions and decision. One such language pattern is called `universal quantifier'. In this we operate with a mindset called `always', `everyone' `all' `every time' etc.

For example, in the dog phobia case, just because some dog bit someone somewhere, our mind may generalize that `every dog is dangerous' , `all dogs are dangerous', `every time you see a dog, you are in ganger' etc. If we get trapped in such generalizations, we will avoid dogs and become very insecure. One way to come out of such a mind set is to keep asking questions to our mind such as `are all dogs dangerous?' or `are dogs always dangerous?' or `will every dog bite everyone?' etc. We should do this at a neutral time and not when we are confronted with a dog!

The problem with many of us is that we don't understand how the mind responds in certain situations. Sometimes we don't do anything to come out of such traps and start accepting these as facts of life. With this frozen mindset, we avoid situations which will make us insecure. In the dog phobia case, we will avoid dogs. But, you will appreciate, that this will not offer a permanent solution to our problems.

In the next newsletter I am going to discuss yet another amazing NLP presupposition called `people have all the resources'.

Getting curious? Keep reading…

N C Sridharan

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[Time-Management] Mind, O, My Dear Mind!

 

13th December 2011

The wonderful thing about the mind is, it is `mutable'. The word `mutable' is an adjective which means, is `able or tending to change'. We can change our mind. We pass through various experiences in life, some good and some bad. There are feelings attached to our experiences, and the feelings are `mutable', if we decide to do so.

I am going to say something, which might look funny to some of you: we can speak to our mind! Yes, we can speak to our mind, like we speak to our friends and relatives. In fact, we are speaking to our mind and our mind is replying to the various questions we pose to the mind. We and our mind debate and arrive at various conclusions and decisions. We may not be conscious, we may not be aware of it. But this goes on.

In the context of the phobia to dogs, we can talk to our mind. As I said earlier, at a time when I am a child, my mind rightly warned me to be careful with dogs, and my mind went one step further and convinced me that I should avoid dogs `forever'. This is where, my mind has done a small damage, though with all good intentions. I need to reeducate my mind by giving, what in NLP called, `counter examples'. I need to thank my mind for the care it wants to take and protect me from dogs. At the same time, I should start noticing that after all there are so many dog lovers and there are numerous examples of how dogs are used as people's best friend.

More about it in my next newsletter…

N C Sridharan

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[Time-Management] Mind, O, My Dear Mind!

 

12th December 2011

There is an interesting and relevant e mail in response to my newsletter of 9th and I quote the content below:

Dear Shridharanji,

I share my own experience as I suffer from phobia of Dogs. I cannot enter into any house having dog as a pet, irrespective of owner's assurances that dog will not harm me. In a lighter way, I used to tell the owner `if dog says so, then only I will believe!'  My introspection for this phobia lead me to a conclusion that in my very early childhood, probably two or three years of age, my father brought a German Shepherd dog , which was kept for few days in my home and it might have some way made me feel insecure and fearful, which image lasts till today at 48 . Late night coming home also makes me insecure and fearful for stray dogs in street. Can you please elaborate remedy for this? 

While I will be talking to him about this problem, I only want to say that every one of our response has a `programme' driving the external behaviour and we cannot `delete' the external behaviour just because it embarrasses us. There is no `alt+control+delete' in the human system!

I will be discussing the problem of my friend in the next few newsletters. While doing so, I will also be discussing a closely related NLP presupposition `behind every behaviour, there is a positive intention'.

In this specific case, at a time when the father brought a German Shepherd dog, the mind rightly warned the little child that a dog is dangerous and one has to be careful. But the problem is when the same state of mind continues even after the specific context has passed and the warning is not valid anymore.

So, what to do? Keep reading…

N C Sridharan

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[Time-Management] Mind, O, My Dear Mind! (Revised)

 

9th December 2011

When we go through an experience, the mind learns something. In fact I have been saying in many forums that mind is controlling the brain function and that once the mind is tickled, the brain function is set into motion.

Let us say that we get locked up in a dark room and we suffer an emotional threat. The mind quickly understands that the situation is dangerous and alerts the brain. The brain in turn secretes some chemicals and hormones, which decide the speed with which we respond. If the traumatic experience continues, we will go through the same internal response to darkness and locked room throughout our life, since our mind sincerely wants to protect us.

I know a person who came to me with a problem on heights. He will feel very uneasy whenever he has to use a lift. He will sweat and go through lot of tension. In fact, it had cost his job more than once. He resigned his lucrative job for the only reason that his office was shifted to the fourth floor of a building. On another occasion, when he was asked to travel by air on an urgent work, he refused and quit his job!

When I went into the origin of how he landed himself in such a state, I came to know that when he was a six month old baby, his father will throw him up and catch him, even though he was afraid and was crying!

Now you can relate what the NLP presupposition `experience has a structure' means?

N C Sridharan

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[Time-Management] Mind, O, My Dear Mind!

 

9th December 2011

When we go through an experience, the mind learns something. In fact I have been saying in many forums that mind is controlling the brain function and that once the mind is tickled, the brain function is set into motion.

Let us say that we get locked up in a dark room and we suffer an emotional threat. The mind quickly understands that the situation is dangerous and alerts the brain. The brain intern secretes some chemicals and hormones, which decide the speed with which we respond. If the traumatic experience continues, we will go through the same internal response to darkness and locked room throughout our life, since our mind sincerely wants to protect us.

I know a person who came to me with a problem on heights. He will feel very uneasy whenever he has to use a life. He will sweat and go through lot of tension. In fact, it had cost his job more than once. He resigned his lucrative job for the only reason that his office was shifted to the fourth floor of a building. On another occasion, when he was asked to travel by air on an urgent work, he refused and quit his job!

When I when into the origin of how he landed himself in such a state, I came to know that when he was a six month old baby, his father will throw him up and catch him, even though he was afraid and was crying!

Now you can relate what the NLP presupposition `experience has a structure' means?

N C Sridharan

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[Time-Management] Mind, O, My Dear Mind!

 

8th December 2011

`Experience has a structure' is a very important and interesting NLP presupposition which will help you understand your behaviours as well as othrs' beviours.

Any living thing has feelings and we understand the world through our feelings. Our feelings trigger a thought process and our thoughts decide our actions. In the case of human beings, the thoughts also influence our emotions and attitude to life. We experience positive and negative feelings and unless and until we neutralize our feelings old thoughts will not disappear and hence new behaviours will not occur!

When you touch fire, you experience pain and you will not touch fire again. On the other hand, if you experience pleasure by touching fire, you will treat that pain as pleasure, and you will want to touch fire again. So touching or not touching fire is not a random behaviour, but triggered by your experience which structures your response to touching fire.

Understanding this simple but common sense principle will help you to overcome issues such as fear, phobia, and negative emotions and drive you to reach your goals in life. There are NLP processes which will make you to do this!

Keep reading….

NC Sridharan

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