2nd February 2012
One of the purposes of NLP is to build mutually respectful and healthy interpersonal relationship. We have to succeed in this society and for this we need the goodwill and cooperation of people. To achieve this, we have the improve the quality of our relationship with others.
When we are born, we are driven purely by our own wants and needs – our toys, our possessions, our materials, etc. When we were happy, we laughed; when we were sad or hungry, we cried. We were not in any way concerned by others. This is typically the `self' position.
As we grew up in life, we got into contact with other people, our mother to start with and others as time passed. We started taking into consideration the needs and expectations of other people. We started appreciating the view points of people around us. This is the starting of the `other' position.
There is a word called `empathy'. It means putting yourself in the shoes of others and looking at the world from that person's point of view. To empathize, you need to understand the `other' position.
To get into the `observer' position, you need to grow mental maturity. You need to develop the ability to detach yourself and look the issue from a non emotional perspective. You don't develop this mindset so easily.
The `self', `other' and the `observer' point of view will influence the way we live each other and will affect the quality of our life.
Curious to know how? Keep reading….
N C Sridharan
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