30th May 2011
| To be successful you have to be selfish, or else you never achieve. And once you get to your highest level, then you have to be unselfish. Stay reachable. Stay in touch. Don't isolate. In my time management seminars, I make a very controversial statement: be selfish and forget about others! When I make this statement first time, normally people do not object or argue. But I purposely repeat this statement several times when the participants start question this virtue. Many will start arguing that we should not be selfish. Just think: what's wrong if we focus on ourselves? Of course, we have to help others. But do you think if others will take your advice of you have not succeeded in the first place? For example, if you want to help others to succeed, should you not succeed in the first place? If you want to advice someone to give up smoking, should you not give up smoking in the first place, if you are also a smoker? If you want to advice others on how to remain healthy, should you not be healthy in the first place? You have to be a role model if you want people to take your advice seriously. If you want to be a role model, you have to be special in some area. If you want to be special in some area, you have to focus on something and concentrate. You have to invest all your mind and efforts on this area. You have to make it as your priority. When you do this, you have to say `no' to others' demands on your time. In fact, by remaining selfish, you are actually helping others! If Michael Jordan had not remained selfish, do you think he would have achieved what he had achieved in life. If he had not achieved something in life, do you think others will take his advice seriously. Once you have reached your goals, of course, you should help others. Have you observed what you are told in an aircraft? They advice you that in case of drop in oxygen pressure you should put on your oxygen mask before helping your others, including your own child! N C Sridharan 000 |
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