27th November 2012
`Holding on to anger is like grasping a hot coal with the intent of throwing it at someone else; you are the one who gets burned'
Buddha
People who take alcohol experience a state called `hangover' resulting in a kind of nagging headache which will interfere with their daily work routine. The reason is the effect of alcohol on the brain chemical.
Have you experienced another type of hangover which I call as `irritation and anger hangover'? This is what you experience when you get angry and irritated at someone and the feeling haunts you long after the event which caused the same!
This state of mind will affect your emotional wellness. I say very often that our brain is a chemical factory and our mind is a thought factory. We need to take care of both these factories. Any chemical imbalance in the mind can be corrected by medicine. But medicine will not change our negative emotional state caused by anger and irritation hangover.
You can get over the anger and irritation hangover by developing mental maturity and forgive the person who caused you to feel angry and irritated. One way to do it is to develop compassion for the person. Compassion will help you forgive that person.
You may not be willing and happy to do so. But you have to understand that when you are haunted by unproductive negative emotions, you are the person to be affected first and your work will suffer!
N C Sridharan
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